If you want a good man get it together. If you have a good man keep it together.

I was having this convo w/ a co-worker and her friend. The friend was complaining about how all the men are dogs. They always cheat on her and they treat her like crap. And while I was sitting there listening to her talk all I kept thinking about was this video that I came across somewhere online. Till this day I can’t find that video or can’t remember for the life in me where I saw it at. But anywho the message was powerful and the freakin true!! one of those things i really remember like if i just saw it. lol.

This woman was saying how women walk around saying there are no good men out there, all men are dogs, all good men are taken or gay….yada yada yada. but she said that there are plenty of good men out there. But they’re not going to walk into your life if you’re not ready to BE what a good man wants. DEEP right?!

That was just the beginning. She went on to say that if you’re in a place in your life where you’re not doing the same things that you want from a man then you’re not gonna get one. Plain and simple. Women have list ..they want a man who has a nice car, makes a lot of money but when you look at yourself – what do you bring to the table. You want a man that looks good but you’re out of shape. You want a man that has money in the bank but you’re broke or your credit is bad. Make sense right?!!! She was on point. She said something like we have to really find out what we want and see what we’re doing to attract that. Because whatever we’re complaining about & saying what we don’t want- that’s what we probably got. Crazy I know!

It goes back to the old cliché if you want love you have to love yourself first. you have to know what it feels like to love yourself so that someone else can love you. WORD!

Now I don’t have a perfect relationship (god knows I don’t) and I’m not claiming to no one that my relationship is the best thing ever. BUT I have been w/ my Adam for 10 years. We’ve seen ups and we’ve seen downs. And even after all these years after I watched and listened to this video I was flabbergasted by how much truth she was speaking. try it..try her way of thinking. If you want your man or guy in your life to treat you a certain way or you want them to do something then do that something or treat them like what you want and you’ll see they’ll return it to you. Crazy but it works. Trust me!!!!