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Dear Men

Letter written by a my new hollywood fascination. Either way came across it and found truth in it. some things some women wouldn't admit but i think believe in a lot of what's written is true. ha!

Dear Men,
We love your body. If we're in love with you, we love your body. Your potbelly, everything. Even if you're insecure about something, we love your body. You feel like you're not this or that? We love your body. We embrace everything. Because it's you.
Speaking of your body, you don't understand the power of your own smell. Any woman who is currently with a man is with him partly because she loves the way he smells. And if we haven't smelled you for a day or two and then we suddenly are within inches of you, we swoon. We get light-headed. It's intoxicating. It's heady.
We remember forever what you say about the bodies of other women. When you mention in passing that a certain woman is attractive — could be someone in the office, a woman on the street, a celebrity, any woman in the world, really — your comment goes into a steel box and it stays there forever. We will file the comment under "Women He Finds Attractive." It's not about whether or not we approve of the comment. It's about learning what you think is sexy and how we might be able to convey it. It's about keeping our man by knowing what he likes.
Never complain about our friends — even if we do. No matter how many times we say a friend of ours is driving us crazy, you are not to pile on. Not because it offends us. But because it adds to the weight that we carry around about her.
Remember what we like. When I first started dating my husband, I had this weird fascination with the circus and clowns and old carnival things and sideshow freaks and all that. About a month after we started dating, he bought me this amazing black-and-white photo book on the circus in the 1930s, and I started sobbing. Which freaked him out. I thought, 'Oh, my God, I mentioned this three or four weeks ago and talked about it briefly, but he was really listening to me. And he actually went out and researched and found this thing for me.' It was amazing.

Stand up, open a door, offer a jacket. We talk about it with our friends after you do it. We say, "Can you believe he stood up when I approached the table?" It makes us feel important. And it makes you important because we talk about it.

In a Rut

Have you ever felt just stuck in a rut.  YOu find yourself in a bad mood and dont know why? you find yourself arguing w/ people for stupid things. you find yourself just annoyed at the littlest thing? well welcome to how I've been feeling this month.

I dont know if it has anything to do with Retrograde but I'm in a rut. I can't put my finger on why but poor Adam's been getting the bad end of the stick. I've been off my game at work making minor mistakes and just getting frustrated with little things. I'm hoping that  I can come out of this feeling really soon. I hate being like this especially to others.

Burnt Biscuits

Got a chain forward email from someone. and there was an important msg that stood out to me.

You know, life is full of imperfect things.....and imperfect people. I'm
not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries
just like everyone else.

What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each others
faults - and choosing to celebrate each others differences - is one of
the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting
relationship.


WORD!!! UNDERSTANDING IS KEY TO ANY RELATIONSHIP!!

iPod touch

Soooo I'm loving my iPod touch. Def not ready to be pro mac but they got brownie points w this iPod!

Hi! From my iPod! Hope my droid is just as good ; )

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY

I love the way you know me and things about me that nobody else knows.
The way you can tell when I'm upset or want to talk, before I even say a word.
The way you know when to let me go or pull me close,
and how you make me laugh when I feel like I'm losing my mind.
I love the way you keep my secrets safe and my dreams alive.
I love the way it feels to be known
and loved
and accepted by you
----- just as I am.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY BABY!!!

If you want a good man get it together. If you have a good man keep it together.

I was having this convo w/ a co-worker and her friend. The friend was complaining about how all the men are dogs. They always cheat on her and they treat her like crap. And while I was sitting there listening to her talk all I kept thinking about was this video that I came across somewhere online. Till this day I can’t find that video or can’t remember for the life in me where I saw it at. But anywho the message was powerful and the freakin true!! one of those things i really remember like if i just saw it. lol.

This woman was saying how women walk around saying there are no good men out there, all men are dogs, all good men are taken or gay….yada yada yada. but she said that there are plenty of good men out there. But they’re not going to walk into your life if you’re not ready to BE what a good man wants. DEEP right?!

That was just the beginning. She went on to say that if you’re in a place in your life where you’re not doing the same things that you want from a man then you’re not gonna get one. Plain and simple. Women have list ..they want a man who has a nice car, makes a lot of money but when you look at yourself – what do you bring to the table. You want a man that looks good but you’re out of shape. You want a man that has money in the bank but you’re broke or your credit is bad. Make sense right?!!! She was on point. She said something like we have to really find out what we want and see what we’re doing to attract that. Because whatever we’re complaining about & saying what we don’t want- that’s what we probably got. Crazy I know!

It goes back to the old cliché if you want love you have to love yourself first. you have to know what it feels like to love yourself so that someone else can love you. WORD!

Now I don’t have a perfect relationship (god knows I don’t) and I’m not claiming to no one that my relationship is the best thing ever. BUT I have been w/ my Adam for 10 years. We’ve seen ups and we’ve seen downs. And even after all these years after I watched and listened to this video I was flabbergasted by how much truth she was speaking. try it..try her way of thinking. If you want your man or guy in your life to treat you a certain way or you want them to do something then do that something or treat them like what you want and you’ll see they’ll return it to you. Crazy but it works. Trust me!!!!

2010

Making moves! hope to be able to have a post and say all the things i've accomplished in one years time. Marking that calendar. i think i forgot that the journey we take in life is what we make of it. not what others see for us. lesson learned.

Listening to: AK's new album and the one song that stands out the most: "If I can touch the sky I'd risk the fall just to know how it feels to fly"


toodles...

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sometimes i really think that god test me on purpose. how can one person have so much going on & its rarely good. lately I try and give off positive energy. i reallly really do i swear. i'm doing this new mediating thing. where i "just be" for 10 minutes 3 times a day. do nothing. go somewhere quiet and concentrate on my breathing. it's really hard for me and i think that worries me more. I'm also saying a mantra, everyday i say "today will be a great day" over and over. bc i'm trying to keep positive energy around me. but damn really can i get a break. its always something after another.

found out my niece has swine flu. whats worse is that there's nothing we can do about it. we can't see her bc we run risk of infection. and we're not on the best of terms w/ her mom so lord knows how she's dealing with it bc both her kids have it. so please anyone reading. send out a prayer for my niece and her baby sis. no child deserves to be sick.


...today will be a great day...today will be a great day.....send your positive thoughts my way....lord knows i need it!!

Empire State of Mind II

So when I first saw the title I rolled my eyes i'll admit.....c'mon I love alicia but damn the radio kills any song right?! But because of I love Alicia I had to take a listen. Its live so I'm sure on her album it will be different. Can't wait for her album.
Enjoy.

whatever happens, happens

woke up this morning from a rough night (week) and sgined on to facebook. this was the first status i saw. needed that.

Sometimes we just need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop trying to figure out exactly how we feel, stop deciding with our mind what we want our heart to feel and sometimes just have to go with "whatever happens, happens..."

no words

sometimes it feels like things will never line up. can a person really be at peace w their life? without wanting to be more sucessful, more richer, more loved....

it seems that just when I feel some things are coming together BAM something else comes up. I really REALLY try to not complain but c'mon really?! I remind myself things could be so much worse. i could be jobless, homeless, loveless,and even lifeless.

but ::sigh:: damn can I get a break. can I once not have to live paycheck to paycheck, can I once go to work and cross off everything on my to do list, could I find some time to see my boyfriend, could I just see my friends more, could I just be one step close to the things I want in life.yes these things may seem trivial but these things are everyday parts of life. they are normal. being happy and satisfied ALL the time can't be normal. if it were then people wouldn't do a damn thing but walk around naked in a garden all day. (lol)

god if I could ask for anything it wouldnt be to be rich, it wouldn't be to be stronger, or fearless, it wouldn't even be to be skinny. I would just ask for patience...just patience. patience to deal w people when they test you, patience to not want the day to end so quickly, patience to be in the moments that make you happy satisfied loved.PATIENCE PLEASE!

Cougaritis

It's official I'm a cougar...hahahah this boy is fly fly fly!!! yummy!!!!!!!!!!!
too bad he's only 17. Yowsa i could get arrested for that one!

Alot on my mind

Have a lot on my mind. Need to blog them down.

So let's see it was my aunt's birthday July 4th - the one that recently past away. God I miss her pain in the ass. She was always asking questions but I would give anything to have to answer anther annoying question from her.

Adam's mom is going through some things health wise and family issues. There's just something to be said about karma. It's like people just do things out of selfishness without ever thinking about how this effects their kids. Now when you're faced w/ losing your child (not through dealth) it's all like why is this happening to me. I feel horrible because I want to comfort her but i have resentment to the situation. I blame her for everything. It's a horrible feeling to blame someone and hold anger towards them. I really wish i didn't. and for some time now i would push those feelings aside and just go about normal conversating and comforting but now i dont know if i can do it.

And today is the day my uncle is in surgery to remove the tumors he has. They are suppose to find out if the cancer has spread. I just pray that everything turns out okay. That God guides those doctors and nurses. and that they are able to remove that bastard of a cancer.

okay back to work it's getting busy!!

Ahhhh....breeze,beach, sand , sun couldn't ask for anything better!

Off I go.....waiting in the airport never seems to bother me. I guess its the excitement of knowing I'm going somewhere. Let's go!

Two Peas in a Pod

bored at work took a test and here were the results:

Q: Are you an your mate Soulmates?

TWO PEAS IN A POD: You're like two peas in a pod. Your love and relationship are strong and what you have is quite blissful. You compliment each other and more importantly learn from each other.

couldn't have said it better myself ;-)

Reminiscing

Sitting here talking w/ my boss about back in the days.

1. Remember recording your favorite songs off of the radio with a cassette. (stopping it during commercial breaks but sometimes not in time and you had to rewind and try to catch the song at the end)
2. Watching movies on VHS like Rescuers, The Little Maid, Toy Story
3. Watching shows when they premieres & not reruns yet.
4. Watching TGIF on ch 7, shows like Different Stroke, Family Matters, Step by Step, Full House.
5. Finally getting into walkmans and pulling out a whole book of cds on the train to change the song.
6. Wearing nautica jackets and lugz boots
7. Going to the library when you had to write a paper and actually getting books and using them as references.
8. Memorizing all the code messages for when you beeped your friends. 07734 = Hello , 080808 = hugs & kisses, 50538=Besos
9. Playing spin the bottle at parties and tap kissing your crush.
   

Ahhh...Those were the days.

REFRESHED

Nice I am officially blogging mobile. Can't stop me now. Let's go! :-D